<![CDATA[GILLPINNINGTON.COM - Inspiration]]>Wed, 22 Apr 2020 14:53:43 +0000Weebly<![CDATA[TOP 2 Anxiety BustING TECHNIQUES]]>Mon, 20 Apr 2020 13:27:48 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/anxiety-buster-workshopSharing some of my fave, tried and tested, anxiety busting, calm inducing, emotion changing techniques. 

This workshop will help you reduce any difficult emotions you’re feeling right now. Taking this time for yourself is not a luxury, it’s a necessity (just like putting the oxygen mask on yourself first, before you help others).

1. Your stress (cortisol) levels will reduce, which in turn supports your immune function.

2. You’ll be more productive because your emotional (right) brain will be calmer, allowing your rational (left) brain to make better decisions.

3. You’ll be showing those around you that it’s ok for them to take time to support themselves right now. You’ll be a light leading the way for others.

4. You’ll be part of a loving community which increases hope and a sense of connection with others.

5. You will have quick and effective techniques to use every day to support yourself though this time of uncertainty and change.

<![CDATA[9 kEYS TO A HAPPY, HEALTHY LIFE]]>Thu, 05 Mar 2020 06:00:00 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/one-quehow-to-be-happier-healthier-and-more-fulfilled-in-your-life
One question you need to ask yourself every day [to be happier, healthier and more fulfilled in your life]

​Life gets busy, messy, complicated. It’s tiring. We push on, getting everything done, making sure everyone is happy, doing all the stuff we ‘should’ do. We keep on going. And doing.

Then. Bam!  We’re exhausted, burnt out, sick, overwhelmed, scattered, confused, stiff, sore, fed up, stressed, anxious... (or choose your own!).

It happened again. In the busy-ness of life and keeping all the plates spinning in the air, doing all the stuff we love and all the things we’d rather someone else do, we forgot to stop and check-in.

We forgot to put ourself first.

On the hamster wheel of ‘work, eat, sleep, kids, family, friends, more work, chores, repeat, repeat, repeat’ we did that human thing that we all do.

We forgot to ask ourselves the ONE question we need to ask every day.

Am I meeting my own needs today?

If you’re now beating yourself up then, please, don't. You've been doing your best. It’s easy to forget to check in, to stop and ask ourselves how we’re doing, when life is so busy. I used to be really good at forgetting to remember me (see my clever wording there, you can use it too!).

It took me a long time, I'm talking years and years and years, to get to the point where it was something I thought about each day. And even now I don’t get it right all the time because sometimes life just, well, happens! Difference is, these days I’m not off track very long and my detours are only down the next street, not into another county!

I actually wrote about getting our needs met on my Instagram last week and, as a result, the lovely Mags at Cariton Retreat said, ‘ooh that’s so helpful, I’d love a poster of that to stick on my fridge as a daily reminder’.

It got me thinking. If Mags would find it helpful then so would lots of other beautiful Self Loving souls that I know. So, I got my creative head on and next thing you know, hey presto, the Daily Self Loving checklist was born.

This useful A4 poster is free to keep, forever (it's the green one below).

A gift of love, from me, to you.

Just click this link to download it to your PC. You might like to print a copy and pin it in a place you’ll see it each day. At the bottom of it, there's a pledge you can make to yourself, to put your needs first and feel ok about it.

Or, if you prefer, you can click here to save it as a jpeg (that’s a picture/photo to you and me) to use as your screen saver on your phone, laptop etc.

You are very welcome to share it with others who would enjoy or benefit from it.

I hope it will be a helpful daily Self Loving reminder that you are really important to you. That you are worthy of your time and loving attention.

(scroll past the Daily Self Loving poster below, for the 'how to' bit, more inspiration and a heart meditation)

Here’s how to use your Daily Self Loving checklist

1. Take 5 minutes each day to ask yourself: 'Am I meeting my needs today?'

2. Look at the checklist and notice where you are with each of the 8 areas.

3. Give yourself a warm, loving hug for the ways you've already met some of your needs that day.

4. See what bits need tweaking, decide how you can meet that need for yourself, and do it.


Maybe you decide to go for a walk in the park (triple whammy of sunlight, nature, movement) instead of sitting aimlessly looking at your phone for 20 minutes.

Perhaps you ask your partner/child to do the dishes after dinner so you can write your journal or mediate for 20 minutes.

It may be that some areas you’re great in and others you’re still developing, like drinking sufficient water or reaching out to connect with people. Wherever you are, it’s totally ok. You’re ok!

Focus on what you need in a way that supports you and do what you can. When we’re making changes in our life, baby steps are infinitely better than no steps at all!

You might even feel inspired to get ahead of the game!

In the morning you might ask,'how will I meet my needs today?'

In the evening,' did I meet my needs today, how will I meet them tomorrow?'

If you’re super organised (some people have that gene!) then you can diarise your day, your week, your month to keep yourself on track.

You can go so far as looking at your whole year. Starting with the things you know are happening, like holidays, family birthdays, deadlines at work, kids exams or school breaks. That way, you can notice where the squeeze points are and come up with a plan to build in a buffer or ask for support.

Maybe you choose to delegate stuff, say a polite 'No, thanks' (what?!) or plan some time to yourself afterwards. You might even schedule in a retreat (some with me coming soon!), workshop or conscious festival to support your journey.

(there's a lovely heart meditation after this pic)

You have permission to put yourself first

Putting ourselves first and prioritising our needs can be a really challenging part of our journey to Self Love because we are led to believe it’s selfish. In fact, the opposite is true.

When we take time each day to look after our own needs it gives us greater capacity to look after everyone else. You have more space within for them, and for you!

Another really important thing happens when we put ourselves first.

We give permission to all those we love and care about to look after themselves too.

Wow. Priceless. I wish I’d been given that precious gift 40 years ago.

We all learn how to look after ourselves from our caregivers and others around us. And we keep on learning from them as we grow up, regardless of how old or young we are.

That’s how I learned to use food to numb my emotions and ignore what was going on inside me. It’s also how I learned to either withdraw or get all bolshy when I felt vulnerable and unsure in relationships. I could write a whole book on what I learned from those who loved me (it’s ok, they were doing their best with the resources they had!) and it's taken me 20 years to un-learn it.

So, now there's a decision to make.

Do we teach those we love and cherish most in the world, that it’s ok to ignore their own needs and put everyone else first (and feel wretched as a result)?


Will we teach them the most valuable lesson they’ll ever learn, that they are the most important thing in their own life and they have full permission to put themselves first, without feeling guilty?

Try this Self Loving heart meditation

If you're struggling with guilt, blame or shame as you're thinking about all this, sit quietly, with your hand on your heart space, and breathe into the love that is already within you, the love that comes from source. The love that is ever present and does not need to be earned.

​Notice what colour it is and breathe that colour deeper and deeper into every cell with every heartbeat and breath. Sit with it for a while, noticing the spaces within that need more love and allowing the colour to fill it. As you allow the colour and the love to grow, repeat several times (outloud if you can) 'thank you love, thank you me'.

Ahhh. That feels better already.

'Choosing me' is a beautiful step on the journey to Self Love. When we choose to put ourselves first, we are saying ‘I am worthy of this time and Self Loving attention. I love you’.

I feel that’s enough from me today; there's a lot to consider. It took me a while to start but once I did, wow, it was hard to stop. Thank you guides and angels!

Now, over to you. I would dearly love to hear how you get on, to share in your triumphs and your breakthroughs, and learn how you overcame any challenges along the way. 

You can email me by clicking here and you can also share your progress on my Facebook or Instagram pages.

Thank you for being my inspiration. I love you.

Blessings and love, Gill xx

PS: You have full permission to ask for support when you need it... contact info below!

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<![CDATA[i love you]]>Fri, 14 Feb 2020 14:25:04 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/i-love-you
​I have something really important to tell you.

I love you. All of you. There is no part of you, inside or out, that I cannot love. And that will not change. I offer my love freely and without condition because I accept all of you.

If it feels difficult to accept my unconditional love then you're not alone. I know how that feels, I haven't always found it easy to be loved.

I remember as a child and young teen, the times when my Mum tried to comfort me, to offer her love. I felt so raw and vulnerable. I felt so much shame that she saw me like that, that she witnessed my pain. I felt like such a failure. All I wanted was to feel normal, for it to go away.

So I rejected her love, pushed her away. And as I did, I learned to reject my own love too. 

For decades after, love was elusive in my life. Feast or famine, deluge or drought. One minute there, the next gone.

Years of therapy, workshops, spiritual festivals, working on my stuff, releasing the triggers from early childhood trauma. Changing how I felt about myself, transforming the beliefs that used to hold me in self criticism, judgement and disdain.

I was genuinely happy with who I was, inside and out, I looked different and felt different. My connection to source deepened and as it did my happiness and contentment increased beyond measure. My tribe were there to support me. I allowed myself to receive their love. And I loved them in return. 

Yet, when it came to my intimate relationships, love felt like a fickle friend. 

When love was there. Confusing, bewildering, unnerving. I couldn't trust myself around love. I didn't feel that I deserved to be loved as I was, believing that love was conditional, on me being good enough, thin enough, ...enough. The list was endless.

And when love wasn't there. Believing exactly the same. Feeling worse and yet feeling relieved. See, I was right after all, I told myself; you don't deserve to be loved. 
Then one ordinary day, my truth was revealed.

Love was always there.

I'd been searching in all the wrong places. I'd been looking for someone to love me the way my Mum had loved me, to cherish and care for me, to make me feel safe and secure again. To witness my pain and vulnerability, fully accepting these parts of me, to welcome the whole of me, and offer unconditional love.

All those years, looking outside of me, searching for someone to love me enough, when all along it was right there, inside of me.

I have the answer.

I am love.

And love is me.

It is the whole of me and each separate part of me.
It doesn't matter who I'm with or how much they love me.
All that ever matters is that I love me.

In relationships, I am the one to make me feel safe and secure when I'm scared of getting hurt. I am there to cherish and care for me, when I'm feeling under pressure or alone. I am the one to witness my pain in all its vulnerability when I reveal who I am to another. I am the one to accept me as me, regardless of what I've said or done or believe. I am the one to offer unconditional love when I get scared and fall back into old ways. 

Love is always with me and within me. 

I am love and love is me. And that's all I need remember.

This is my Self Love story and I humbly share it with you, so you can see me and know my truth. It is an honour to reveal this part of myself to you.

Thank you for receiving me as I receive you.

On this most glorious day of Self Love, I offer you my deepest love and my appreciation for all you bring to my life and our bountiful ever-giving universe.

Thank you for being my inspiration as I continue to serve you.

Today, and every day, I invite you write your own love story through embracing the deepest of loves, Self Love, for it is always truly you.
​If even a teeny, weeny part of this resonates and you want to release the past, if you want to fully accept all you truly are and embrace a life of limit-less Self Love... then let's work together.

This is your time to release the past and change your future. This is your time to step into your power, to acknowledge how amazing you really are. This is your time to fully LOVE YOU!

I’m here to support you, I'm right by your side. You deserve to live your best life, one filled with unconditional love and acceptance for yourself.

My contact details are below, drop me a message to arrange a time to chat about where you are and where you want to be.

From my heart to yours, from my soul to yours, I can't wait to welcome you home!
Gill xx

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<![CDATA[learning to trust again]]>Fri, 31 Jan 2020 07:30:00 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/learning-to-trust-again

​Trust. It’s a big deal.

No matter who we are or where we come from, at some time or other we all experience the pain and sorrow of a trust that is broken.

Learning to trust has been big part of my own journey. I don’t mind admitting, it’s been confusing, challenging and downright annoying at times. And there’s been a lot of pain.

For many years I didn’t trust my intuition, even when it told me loud and clear that things were wrong. As I grew spiritually this changed. I learned to listen to the messages and the more I worked intuitively with my clients the more I trusted what I heard and responded from a place of Self Love.

But. Isn’t there always a but!

I’d still find myself in a drama loop. Yikes, what a muddle I’d get myself into, over and over again. It was so frustrating.

For me, it was always romantic relationships. They scrambled my brain!

I’m no different to you and most other souls. I had my heart broken open and my trust betrayed. I picked myself up, dusted myself down, and moved on.

I did the ‘work’ on the pain, I grieved for what was and what might have been. I worked heaps on the core wounds from childhood and I really, really wanted to let them go.

But I’d find myself in the same place, again.

For me it wasn’t that I couldn’t trust the next beau in my life. That was easy for me.

My problem was the opposite.

I trusted too much.

I gave the benefit of the doubt, I understood what was driving their behaviour, I could feel their wounds as if they were my own, I waited for them to change. I gave them time.

Of course, they never did.

That’s where they were.
That’s where I was.
That was that.

I’m always conscious that in situations like this, whatever is occurring in my outer life is there to shine a spotlight into my shadows, so I can welcome it home.

There are times when I would sit with it, watching and listening as I gently and slowly noticed what needed to change. Sometimes I’d dive straight in and tackle it to the ground, happy to score a quick try for Team Gill. And other times I’d follow the dance to see where it took me, to the core of the wound, in all its truth and vulnerability.

It was the the longest dance, I was tired and ready to sit out. And after a rest, I’ll be ready to find a new dance partner, I said.

After all the work I’d done, I really was ready to let this one go. Still the solution eluded me. So I left it alone for a while, changed my focus, redirected my energy to what I really wanted.

I wanted to trust.

I wanted a man I could trust, who would follow through. A man who would be true to his word, open, loving and honest. A man who would stand his ground, know his truth and live it. A man I could depend on.

Then just a few days ago, I had a huge spiritual download; it was amazing. The penny finally dropped. For the longest time I knew it intellectually yet only now did I feel it, breathe it, and accept it at a soul and cellular level.

I’d been looking for the answer to rebuilding trust in others.
I’d been looking for someone to trust.

The truth was revealed to me.

It wasn’t about trusting the next man in my life, or anyone else for that matter.

It is about me trusting me.

I am the one to trust
I am the one to follow through
I am the one to be true to my word
I am the one to be loving to me
I am the one to be honest with me
I am the one to stand my ground
I am the one to know my truth and live it
I am the one I can depend upon

I am the one I need to trust. 

This has been a gamechanger for me. Immediately I actually felt different, I could see my world anew. I want this for you.

​Relationships are especially good at bringing up our issues with trust. Things happen, or they don’t. It wasn’t what was promised. We feel hurt, let down. We don’t know what to think, what to do, how to be. It wasn’t what you expected. Or maybe it was, because it’s what we experienced before.

We blame the other person, and often ourselves. We feel angry, hurt, disappointed. The pain of broken trust makes us wary, we’re not sure how to be. We’re unsure if we can fully trust, again.

We move into the future unsure of trusting others. Naming, blaming, shaming. It’s their fault. They should have behaved differently. It’s my fault. I should have known better.

If any of part of this resonates and you want to live life differently from now on, then it’s time we worked together.

It’s time to release the past and change your future. It's time to stop dancing the fandango with trust so you can step into Self Love, and fully trust that you will always do what's right for you.

I’m here to support you. I'm right by your side.

You deserve to live your best life, one filled with unconditional love and trust for yourself.

Send me an email to arrange a time for us to chat about where you want to be, my contact details are at the bottom.

I’m waiting to welcome you home to Self Love.
Gill xx

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<![CDATA[The Christmas list]]>Mon, 23 Dec 2019 20:00:00 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/the-christmas-list
The Christmas List
10 days to Christmas
List is endless
So much to do
Put lights up
Decorate tree
Bake a cake
Update the list
Post the cards
Buy the gifts
Wrap in bows
Order food
Buy the booze
Oh my gosh
How could I forget
Update list again
Even more to do
I promised to visit
Lunch with friends
Aunty to call
Grandma to see
Pressure mounting
Stressing started
Must check the list
What did I miss
Oh yes
That’s it
I completely forgot
There’s no time for me
When you’re busy remembering everyone and everything else this December, remember to make time for you!
Many thanks for being part of this ever expanding circle of Self Love; you are my inspiration!
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Love and light, Gill
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<![CDATA[The greatest gift]]>Mon, 23 Dec 2019 18:11:57 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/the-greatest-gift
We can learn a lot from cats, especially at Christmas
Belle takes a rest when she needs it and tells me loud and clear when she needs something from me
We don’t speak the same language but she makes sure I understand
Some might say cats are selfish, I say they’re great at stating their needs and putting themselves first
The festive period gets really stressful for lots of women and men
Instead of hoping your husband, daughter, brother, partner, etc, will guess what you need doing and miraculously offer to do it
Instead of taking on responsibility for absolutely everything and silently wishing someone would offer to take some things from the list, when they never have
Instead of feeling unseen, resentful and taken advantage of because you’ve done everything, yet again
Instead of doing what you’ve always done and getting the same result (no support)
Instead of hoping they’ll read your mind and know how exhausted you are but not saying anything because you ALWAYS do it all
Instead, do something different
Share with those you love, how you’re feeling, how you’d like their support, and what you’d like them to do
Maybe they won’t do it ‘as good as you’ but who cares if it means you get to enjoy all that Christmas brings without being the only burnt out offering left in the kitchen on Boxing Day
Give them the gift of showing their love and support to you
Give them the gift of trusting them enough to do it
Give them the gift of showing it’s always ok to ask for help
Give them the gift of knowing it’s ok to ask for your needs to be met
And while they do all that stuff, take a leaf out of Belle’s book, and have a cat nap, it’ll do you the world of good

Many thanks for being part of this ever expanding circle of Self Love; you are my inspiration!

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Love and light, Gill

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<![CDATA[The truth about being lucky]]>Tue, 26 Nov 2019 15:37:48 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/the-truth-about-being-lucky

My latest adventure has just started... two and a half months in Paris, the city of Self Love. One of the most iconic cities in the world, a perfect location to be Self Love Coaching, cat sitting, and exploring all it offers.

People often marvel at the opportunities that come my way saying things such as ‘you’re so lucky’, ‘nothing like that happens to me’ or ‘I wish I could do something like that’.

Saturday was no exception.

Just 2 days before I arrived in Paris, I discovered that my dear friend Sahil from New Delhi would be in Paris that weekend as part of his Masters in Australia. This beautiful synchronicity didn’t stop there, as our mutual friend Anais who lives in Paris was also available. The three of us met up and enjoyed a reunion of our amazing month together in Dharamkot, India.

As we caught up with each other’s lives they too kept commenting how ‘lucky’ I am, all these opportunities and connections, even in bringing the three of us together in India, and again in Paris.

How ‘lucky’ I was to have worked in Thailand then travelled to Myanmar and South of France, to now be in Paris, to be following my life purpose, my soul’s calling.

Truth is, anyone can be this lucky, if they really want to.
Truth is, it’s not just down to chance or fate or whether you’re lucky, or not.
Truth is, it’s about being open to receiving all opportunities and possibilities.

Truth is, it’s about trusting that Everything Is Always Working Out For Me (quote Abraham Hicks), even when, especially when, you find yourself knee deep in adversity, uncertainty, and big piles of the proverbial.

Truth is, it’s not just luck, it’s about taking responsibility

For who you are now
For who you want to be
For where you are now
For where you want to be
For how you feel now
For how you want to feel
For seeking change
For making those changes
For releasing old beliefs
For accepting a new you
For living differently
For thinking differently
For raising your vibration
For creating space
For being you
For loving you

Truth is, being lucky is also about choice.

More than ten years ago, I accepted full responsibility for my life as it was and made a conscious choice to change my future.
Six years ago, I chose not to go to India because I was too scared.
Four years ago, I chose to release the limiting beliefs that stood in the way of not doing what my heart and soul desired.
Two years ago, I chose to follow my dreams and finally bought that ticket to India.
Today, I choose to embrace all that I am and to change what no longer serves me.
Today, and every day, I choose how lucky I wish to be.

You too, can choose to do the same.
You too, can be living the life you dream of.
You too, can be as lucky as me.
​The choice is always yours.

Even when you think you have no choice, you do.

You can choose not​ to believe you have no choice.

You can choose to believe that you're lucky, that good things happen to you, that life is full of amazing things just waiting to happen.

You can choose to change, to commit to yourself, to love yourself fully and without condition.

You can choose you.

As the end of the year approaches and you reflect on 2019, as you consider your dreams and desires for 2020.

Don’t just plan on making New Year’s resolutions that will leave you feeling like you’ve failed because it doesn’t happen by the end of January.

Don’t just rely on hopes and wishes magically coming true.

Don’t just rely on winning the lottery so you can give up your job.

Don’t just leave your future to chance.

Do life differently, commit to your future, release your past.

Do this one thing today that your future self will thank you for.

Reach out, work with me, to

Transform your fears
Transform your beliefs
Transform your life

You really can do it!

You are worthy of this commitment to yourself

It’s the ultimate act of Self Love

Come on, let’s go on this adventure together.

Gill Pinnington
The Self Love Coach

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Empowering women to create a life of Self Love, emotional freedom and joy. 

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<![CDATA[am i enough?]]>Thu, 24 Oct 2019 22:19:23 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/am-i-enough
I’m not good enough. 
What I do isn’t good enough.
I'm a perfectionist.
It has to be perfect.
I have to be perfect.
I’m not good enough.
What if I could be good enough.
Maybe I am good enough.
Maybe what I do is good enough.
What I do is good enough.
I am good enough.

Same coin, two sides.

Always feeling like you’re not good enough.

Doing more. Trying to BE more. Working harder, longer. Pushing yourself. Pushing others. Relentless pursuit of the goal. Over achieving. Accolades. Praise. Recognition. Promotion. Momentary satisfaction. It's never enough.

Still feeling you’re not good enough.

Still believing you’re not good enough.

Money, possessions, holidays, homes, cars, body perfection, insta-perfect lives.

I’m not good enough.

Self-restriction. Over exercise. Health obsession. Unrelenting standards. Perfectionism.

Still I’m not good enough.

Flip the coin over.

Moving from one thing to another. Never feeling like it’s the right thing.
Always doing the wrong thing. Second guessing. Doubting decisions. Seeking reassurance. Needing external validation.

Trying to please the emotionally absent parent, trying even harder, still not feeling recognised, not seen, not heard, no voice, not loved.

How could I ever be enough.

You learnt how to love from your parents. They learned from their parents. And they learned from theirs.

You followed the roles assigned by your family.

Good daughter
Dutiful wife
Supportive sister
Helpful grandchild

The brainy one
The creative one
The naughty one
The useless one
The good one
The difficult one
The wild one
The stupid one
The troubled one

What is my identity, who am I.

You had to be
Seen and not heard
In order to be loved

I am trying. Am I still not enough.

I don’t know who I am
Can I ever be enough
Am I enough to be loved

Pain, confusion, frustration, anger, sadness, grief. 

Who should I be. 
I don't know who I am.
Who do I even want to be.

Sorrow. Wounds that rip open the heart with every teardrop. 
Desire for change, unchartered waters.
A siren's call onto the rocks of your life.
Beliefs breaking apart, revealing their bounty.
Lights from the shore, revealing the shadows.
Exploring magical places long forgotten.

Hope, possibilities, nourishment, trust, choices.

It matters not who others think I am.
I am not their labels.

Whoever I am. I choose me.
I don't need to be perfect.
I only need to be me.

I remember now.

I've always been enough.
I am enough.
I am me.
I am trust.
I am hope.
I am self love.

<![CDATA[What is self love?]]>Tue, 17 Sep 2019 10:00:00 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/what-is-self-love

what is self love?

Self Love is gentle, kind, compassionate, courageous, bold, scary, enlightening, liberating.

Self Love is saying no, saying yes, saying nothing, saying everything, being heard, being seen, speaking your truth.

Self Love is taking time out, doing less, doing nothing, stopping, being still, just being.

Self Love is feeling fear and doing it anyway, not knowing the outcome and detaching from the result.

Self Love is being honest, holding back, opening up, holding space, being open, knowing when to go within.

Self Love is acknowledging, accepting, forgiving, all that happened, all that didn’t, all that was said, and what wasn’t.

Self Love is accepting you, forgiving you, loving you, without condition.

Self Love is knowing you are enough.

Self Love is coming home to you.

Self Love is living life on your terms, loving more, being more.

Self Love is your greatest adventure.

Self Love is the answer to every question, the balm for every wound.

Self Love is your destiny, your path, your calling, your birthright.

Self Love is all this and more. You are all this and more.

I am your guide on this journey to Self Love.

Reach out now, I'm waiting.
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<![CDATA[live with courage]]>Wed, 14 Aug 2019 17:46:35 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/live-with-courage

It takes courage to reveal the innermost workings of your mind to another in a therapeutic relationship. However, it takes a whole new level of courage to admit to yourself that not only is it time to sort out the 'stuff' that's getting in the way of loving yourself without condition, but also acknowledging what it is and where it came from.
Set yourself free
So often, the things that hold you back are the things that have kept you safe; your hidden shield. They protected you in some way, kept you where you (perhaps thought you) wanted to be. It feels comfortable, it's what you know; sometimes like a pair of fluffy slippers, other times like a strict parent enforcing the rules.
It feels safe.
You know who you are and where you stand, even when it's painful. Even when you can feel a destructive force at play. It feels far better to be within the boundaries you know than to be set free.
“I’m scared, who will I be without all this pain?”
You will be the most amazing version of you.
Connect the pieces
For many, it is hard to see the connection between what keeps you safe, albeit unhealthily, and what you need to let go of. Once acknowledged, it's obvious; a real light bulb moment occurs. It is so important to not just see how they are connected but to look at how it has served you during this time in the emotional wilderness.
What did you needed protecting from and what do you stand to lose or gain if that shield isn't there?
Remember, you have so much to gain by dropping your shield and stepping out of that rusty armour, allowing yourself to see how amazing you really are. Allow the world to see your true self in all its beauty and majesty. Marvel at how well you looked after yourself, meeting your needs in the only way you knew how. Acknowledging that it served you well, but that it no longer serves you now.
Now is your time to shine.
Enlist support – step out of the shadow
The next step is the most crucial. It is your life's quest. Stand tall and proud, congratulate yourself for stepping forward, out of the shadows and into the bright sunlight. Look around you.
Seek out new, healthy ways of serving your own needs.
If you don't yet know how to do this, then reach out. Find the right coach for you. Someone who has been there, knows of your pain, and is now living a life filled with self love. A coach to be your advocate and biggest supporter, to offer you hope and hold space while you grow into your most authentic self. The right coach will help you identify the limiting beliefs that hold you back, gently and effectively releasing them, cheering you on to the finishing line.
We all need a helping hand when life’s contrast challenges us. The right coach will show you positive ways of thinking, strategies to build personal resilience and the tools to lead the life of self love that you so want and deserve.
Rejoice in your new life. Search for all that is good, every day. Know that you can change. Take comfort in the knowledge that if I can change, then so can you.
You deserve to live your best life.
Reach out, we can walk this path together.
Blessings and love

<![CDATA[Ground hog day]]>Wed, 14 Aug 2019 17:34:01 GMThttp://gillpinnington.com/inspiration/ground-hog-day
​Have you seen the film Ground Hog Day, where the lead character gets stuck in a time loop and has to keep living the same day over and over again? Perhaps this is your life right now?

For so many years my life was like the worst kind of ground hog day. I found myself in the same situations over and over again. None of it good, feeling worse and worse as time went on. Sometimes I'd think I'd cracked it, only to find myself back to square one. It affected all areas of my life and how I felt; I’d despairingly berate myself for 'failing' and 'being useless'.

What’s your movie like?
Being stuck in your own ground hog day movie isn't good. You feel stuck, like nothing is working, it eats away at your confidence and self esteem. No matter what you do, you just can’t get out. It feels like you’re stuck in a loop, constantly rewinding and replaying.
Is your movie...
A tragedy, filled with heartaches, drama and problems of every kind imaginable

A comedy of errors, where the characters get in and out of one jam after another

A mediocre, low-budget film nobody would remember the following week
Positive Ground Hog Day
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if your ground hog day movie was a beautiful masterpiece, so magnificent that it uplifts, inspires and empowers you? 

Well, believe it or not, the choice is yours.

You don’t have to be stuck watching the same depressing movie for the rest of your life.
Change the movie
I bet you’re thinking, ‘Of course I want to change my movie but I don’t know how.’ The remote control in your hand right now and all you need do is press STOP, and EJECT the old movie and PLAY your new one.

This is technique is called the STOP! System, it is very powerful in helping you to make lasting change in how you think and feel.

S - STOP! Interrupt old habitual patterns of response. Buy time to consciously replace unhelpful thoughts and beliefs with new, life enhancing self statements. Generate new neural pathways and patterns of thinking.

T - Take a step back. Your extraordinary human brain has the unique ability to be able to shift perception; to see things from another point of view; to step back from itself and become an observer of both thought and action.

O - Observe. From your observing self, notice what your internal dialogue is and what effect that has on how you feel, both physically and emotionally. Notice how that affects your behaviour.

P - Practise emotional intelligence. Negative thinking is nothing more than a bad habit. And like any bad habit, it can be changed with conscious and deliberate effort.

STOP! will release you from the prison of your illusions. The good news is you can change your behaviours. All you have to do is change your mind!
Looking at each area of your life, decide what isn’t working for you or is holding you back. Areas to consider may include:
· relationships and friendships
· obligations
· routines
· behaviours
· limiting thoughts
· beliefs about yourself or the world
· past traumas
· the work you do
· where you live

Decide what you can let go of right now and what you want to work towards.

Starting small is ok!

Perhaps you’ll say a polite ‘no’ to something you do only because you feel obligated, or maybe you’ll choose to spend less time with people who bring you down rather than lift you up.
This is about moving forward, about actually making those changes in your life. You know what you want to change, so now it’s time to start making it happen. Easier said than done, you say? Here are my top 3 recommendations…
1 – Consciously choose to change; you’ll be surprised at how powerful it is (I can still remember the day I consciously chose happiness!). Then remind yourself each day of what you stand to gain.
2 – Use Emotional Freedom Technique (also known as EFT or Tapping) to change how you feel about your past, your present and your future. Have the tools to take back control of your emotional and physical health and wellbeing. Work with a practitioner or join a local group for the best results.
3 – Change one thing at a time; that way, you don’t feel overwhelmed and give up. Start small, give yourself time to adapt.
It may feel like there’s a lot to change, or that you won’t be able to do it by yourself so break it down into small chunks then decide on a plan of action. Start off with the easier stuff. Enlist the help of supportive friends and family or reach out to me for support.
If I can change, then so can you. Come on, do it, I believe in you!
Love and blessings, Gill xx